From Monday February 6, 2012:
What is the purpose of winning? It is a moment in time of self-accomplishment, team display of affection, the kind of tool that brings an emotion to the surface that is generally hidden behind many obstacles to emotion. There seems to be a short-term aspect to winning that is replaced quite fast by immediate “back to the drawing board” mentality.
Really, if you think about it, winning only makes us happy in the present. Most of the time, it just becomes a memory, rather than a long-term emotion. The emotion of losing lasts longer than winning. And that’s just the inner-self’s deficiency and maintenance of self-loathing and dejection.
Where can a medium be drawn? Can there be a neutral emotion between winning and losing? No!
In the world in which we live, winning is a general requirement when handling all (or most) situations. For example, in the business world, the element of competition among employees (sales contests, bonuses, etc.) are present all around the workplace. If you turn on the television, in between shows many commercials are competing for your attention to buy their product(s). And, of course, throughout the many athletic networks on television there are sporting events re-introducing the idea of competition in numerous forms and methods.
Is the mentality of “winning” or “being competitive” wrong? Some may say that competition generates a line to the 7 deadly sins (Pride, Envy, Gluttony, Lust, Anger, Greed, and Sloth). But others believe it is how one handles his/her competitive nature, and the result of winning. Of course, to avoid the consequences you can always avoid competition. However, if you think long and hard, there is competition in a lot of things and actions. In my opinion, it’s quite difficult to avoid competition completely.
This is the main reason for developing a method of handling one’s competitive nature. As we mature and grow as individuals, it is essential to draw from positive influences in our lives and avoid negative behavior. This falls upon the lines of parental responsibilities. It is also common for genetic lines to be manipulated through coaching/teaching methods of peers and or other social influences. But it should come from home…
In closing, there is no purpose of winning unrelated to emotion. When competing, it is essential to develop a method of evaluating one’s behavior before and after an event. Also, through parental and peer influences our emotions are guided to levels of desired (or undesired) consequences. Hopefully, the outcome of winning will not be a fear of consequences, but an emotional balance to be satisfied with one’s efforts. When an outcome arrives, winning or losing, it needs to be accepted.
I think of behavior and expression when observing people and things. According to Psychology Today, when trying to read the behavior of others, the things to look for are appearance, posture, movements and facial expressions. The non-verbal signs can speak a thousand words about a person. I think that’s why it’s important to pay close attention to the people and things around.
Goodbye for tonight…